tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post7979417666342478871..comments2023-03-31T05:59:51.984-07:00Comments on The Mule: Creating a Ritual for Weaning at FourThe Mulehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-23019937699951138272014-04-10T19:12:59.060-07:002014-04-10T19:12:59.060-07:00Thank you so much for this. I found it as I was lo...Thank you so much for this. I found it as I was looking for rituals as the sacred experience of nursing my newly-turned-4-year-old is winding down. Like you, it is a bittersweet time. I am ready to have my body back, yet I have cherished that we have shared it in this way for so long. Thank you again for sharing so beautifully.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03968654074749091049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-24239953487374596412013-09-27T12:45:35.544-07:002013-09-27T12:45:35.544-07:00Oh, I've just found this post and it's jus...Oh, I've just found this post and it's just what we need. My 3 going on four year old feeds just once a day in the mornings but I feel the time is coming for us to move on, but I'd love to do it in a way which recognises what a significant step this is for the child and the mother. Thank you.<br />Merielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15969185300279077760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-56105524453708035872013-02-11T03:03:11.364-08:002013-02-11T03:03:11.364-08:00Oh I loved this post from top to bottom. I only b...Oh I loved this post from top to bottom. I only breastfed till 13 months but cried myself to sleep as I missed it so much.<br /><br />I dread him going to school.<br /><br />He is on 3 bottles a day still. At two and a half! Which is frowned upon by some (mostly, ironically, people whose 3 year olds are still using dummies when Aaron never ever has).<br /><br />Letting go of our babies is so tough. Makes me want another.<br /><br />Liska xxNew Mum Onlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14285584922202683960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-19393481416728438822012-11-04T08:59:11.283-08:002012-11-04T08:59:11.283-08:00From making me laugh out loud reading your first p...From making me laugh out loud reading your first paragraph to getting a big lump in my throat by the end of this post, it brings home to me that my youngest, now 22 months and I will at some stage have this journey to take together. Like you, I never really had a definte plan apart from trying to breastfeed until 2 yrs. My first, Sophia, sadly self-weaned (after a difficult time using me as a teether) at 8 months and I expressed after that for as long as I could manage, but with Jess it is quite different, no firm plan, just taking it each day as it comes. I have days when I would like "me" back but then I know that the bond we form when she feeds is truly like no other. I feel truly blessed that second time around I have had the chance to experience this amazing connection with one of my children for longer than just months. Thank you for your heart felt post xxCharlie - Sophia's Choicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02256553594200374259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-64816740068743899172012-10-25T01:12:16.138-07:002012-10-25T01:12:16.138-07:00Thanks for posting this - it's very moving. We...Thanks for posting this - it's very moving. We will do something similar, I think, when the time comes, now you've given me the idea. Probably more for me than for him! What a great blog this is. Thank you.Mixed Feelingsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-20647525720028516742012-10-07T12:19:27.952-07:002012-10-07T12:19:27.952-07:00Thanks for your honest story anon. I hope you find...Thanks for your honest story anon. I hope you find a way to make peace with the transition. I know I will find it hard when my last child weans. Breastfeeding has become such a big part of my life and my identity, I don't know how or who I will be without it. <br />Sending you a big hug through cyberspace xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-59665877259868717502012-10-07T12:17:33.223-07:002012-10-07T12:17:33.223-07:00Another amazing mummy, nursing twins!
I do find i ...Another amazing mummy, nursing twins!<br />I do find i go through phases of aversion and then it comes good again. <br />Good luck to you, and thanks for your comment xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-85730131980740444742012-10-07T12:16:20.034-07:002012-10-07T12:16:20.034-07:00Thanks Jessica. Yes, the ritual could just be for ...Thanks Jessica. Yes, the ritual could just be for you if your children don't want to join in.<br />I am in awe of your achievement nursing 2 1/2 year old twins.<br />Love to you and thanks for your comment xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-53600020406975752942012-10-07T12:14:55.831-07:002012-10-07T12:14:55.831-07:00Brilliant to know. So glad I wrote it now xBrilliant to know. So glad I wrote it now xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-81613411288274121322012-10-07T12:14:25.599-07:002012-10-07T12:14:25.599-07:00That is wonderful Elizabeth! xThat is wonderful Elizabeth! xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-79900271016284529672012-10-06T13:57:27.394-07:002012-10-06T13:57:27.394-07:00Thanks for posting this. It's timely. My 4.5...Thanks for posting this. It's timely. My 4.5yr old is self weaning, one boob dried up totally, other pretty much, lost his latch this summer, hurts me when he tries now, and gets frustrated. I wanted to go as long as he wanted to, after two there seemed no point in trying to wean him, what was the point, he loved it and I loved the closeness, I never thought it would be as hard for me as it is when it started drawing to a close. Been feeding him for so long, I'm not sure what my role is now, and am scared about how it may change our bond. I'm in tears about it at least once a day at the moment. he has no idea, as he shouldn't. I'm a breastfeeding supporter, you'd think i'd have a clue how to reassure myself but I don't. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-10856165036516856472012-10-06T09:59:00.780-07:002012-10-06T09:59:00.780-07:00I found your post so comforting. Just this week I ...I found your post so comforting. Just this week I wrote a post about my recent aversion to breastfeeding my 20 month old twin boys, Spud and Sprout. It seems my mind has decided that it is time to wean but my heart wants to continue. Spud and Sprouts need for boobie milk is greater then my need to stop breastfeeding so I'm plodding along. It's nice to hear how a breastfeeding relationship develops and it's encouraging although heartbreaking to hear how it ends. What a beautiful ritual to commemorate it by. twinklemummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15981223029536256357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-18958444860198531082012-10-06T09:09:23.753-07:002012-10-06T09:09:23.753-07:00Thank you for writing this, there truly are days w...Thank you for writing this, there truly are days when I feel very alone in nursing my 2 1/2 yr old twins. It is also nice to be reminded that this phase in life will end, no matter how wonderful it can be sometimes. Also, thank you for the idea of creating a ritual of your own to mark this time and its passing, it is not something that should be forgotten (at least by me, even if my boys aren't as interested down the road). A well written and endearing story if you ask me :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13143311359700254846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-48527445680962056042012-10-05T13:29:18.071-07:002012-10-05T13:29:18.071-07:00You have inspired me as well, thanks! Sending your...You have inspired me as well, thanks! Sending your warm wishes Louise xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-5467978569439829912012-10-05T07:56:52.358-07:002012-10-05T07:56:52.358-07:00Beautiful, thank you so much for writing this. My ...Beautiful, thank you so much for writing this. My daughter still loves nursing at 14 months, but when the time comes, you have inspired me to have a ceremony like this!Elizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-69911164574014826682012-10-05T04:42:56.913-07:002012-10-05T04:42:56.913-07:00Thanks for reading Anon xThanks for reading Anon xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-82581290085927272952012-10-05T04:40:03.297-07:002012-10-05T04:40:03.297-07:00Thanks mumjuice.
I wonder if there is something al...Thanks mumjuice.<br />I wonder if there is something all three of you could do together - there's no reason why your older daughter would have to be left out? A lovely celebration of your breastfeeding time for ALL of you! <br />Keep in touch and thanks for your comment x<br />The Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-66745706762400928582012-10-05T04:35:51.780-07:002012-10-05T04:35:51.780-07:00What a beautiful piece. Thank you for sharing.What a beautiful piece. Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-30957094455814234832012-10-05T04:34:27.102-07:002012-10-05T04:34:27.102-07:00Well...perhaps you need a ritual?!
Good luck with...Well...perhaps you need a ritual?! <br />Good luck with it, and thanks for your comment xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-83689266807437943182012-10-05T04:34:11.853-07:002012-10-05T04:34:11.853-07:00I'm in tears now. My little girl also 4, also ...I'm in tears now. My little girl also 4, also just weaned (for the same reason and she also just started school. I wish I'd had something we could have done together (that wouldn't have left her older sister out, who was forced weaned at just 15months by some 'emergency' medication). After 4 years of nursing her I thought I was ready to let go but I guess just like losing a long ill elderly relative, despite the 'blessed release' I still grieve. It's all part of my growing up too. <br />Well done on giving your child a brilliant start to life!xx<br />mumjuicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18223122181093091529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-83630483519261049472012-10-05T04:32:56.710-07:002012-10-05T04:32:56.710-07:00That is such an appropriate quote Sarah, thank you...That is such an appropriate quote Sarah, thank you. <br />Yes, the letting go bit is very hard. :(<br />I have to constantly remind myself that it is a positive and essential thing for them, for me to let them 'fly', and only then does it feel a tiny bit easier! x<br />The Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-80671267391666718232012-10-05T04:29:38.956-07:002012-10-05T04:29:38.956-07:00Thanks Sammy, that is a sweet story. xThanks Sammy, that is a sweet story. xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-60314295316416596582012-10-05T04:29:12.422-07:002012-10-05T04:29:12.422-07:00Wow, 8 years! That is impressive! These little end...Wow, 8 years! That is impressive! These little endings can all be pretty big 'mortality hits', can't they? *sigh*<br />Perhaps this post might inspire you to make your own ritual when she finally does wean...it sound like it will be a momentous occasion for you all.<br />Love to you and thanks for your comment xThe Mulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786143388807016249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-4822975446520498942012-10-05T04:28:47.651-07:002012-10-05T04:28:47.651-07:00aw this was beautiful..made me cry! I have another...aw this was beautiful..made me cry! I have another problem, my DD self weaned at 3 years 2 months, and now has a sister who feeds at a year. Shes just started school and is asking me to feed her again! i feel bad for her, but its not a path i really want to backtrack on! Mama to Munchkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09669195373636409835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-408457313131912061.post-3914222561986963082012-10-05T02:09:47.582-07:002012-10-05T02:09:47.582-07:00Beautiful - “There are only two lasting bequests w...Beautiful - “There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings.”<br /><br />It's a lot easier on a mother to nurture roots than winds though isn't it? We often forget the 'good enough mother' role means letting go as much as it does 'holding' our little ones.<br /><br />SxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com